DIVORCE MEDIATION CHECKLIST: THE FOLLOWING IS A CHECKLIST OF STEPS TO TAKE PRIOR TO YOUR FIRST MEDIATION SESSIOn. It is most helpful if both you and your partner can prepare your own checklists by writing down information and answers to each of the following and provide these checklists to your mediator prior to or at the time of your first session.

1.  TALK TO YOUR PARTNER ABOUT MEDIATION.  Are both of you agreeable to mediation and willing to wor

1. Talk to Your Partner.

Are both you and your partner agreeable to resolve your dispute outside of the courthouse and in a mediator's office?  It takes two to tango but it also takes two to settle.  Make sure you are both at least on board with finding out if mediation can help you move through your divorce by agreement.  

2. What is the history if any of prior litigation between the parties?

If there is an active restraining order in place between you and your partner mediation may not be your solution.  It is important to detail your past history of litigation between the two of you so that your mediator is aware of it to help you move forward effectively.  

3. Income Information

Gather your tax returns for the last five years together and provide these documents to your mediator at the earliest possible time.

4. Gather Debt and Asset Information

Make a list all debt that you have acquired during the marriage including credit cards, loans, personal debts, etc.  

Make another list of any assets that you have acquired during your marriage, for example real property with values and locations.

5. Summarize Employment and Salary History of the Parties

Write down the employment history and earning/salary history for each party.

6. Children

Write down the following information concerning your children and provide them to your mediator:

a.  names and dates of birth of the children and their ages;

b.  If your child attends post-highschool training school or college provide the names and locations of colleges, tuition and method of payment of same.

c.  If your child is not yet enrolled in college, write down any plans for college your child may have.

d.  List any bank accounts or funds set aside for payment of college tuition that were set up during the marriage.

e.  Write down any special needs your child may have.