Are both you and your partner agreeable to resolve your dispute outside of the courthouse and in a mediator's office? It takes two to tango but it also takes two to settle. Make sure you are both at least on board with finding out if mediation can help you move through your divorce by agreement.
If there is an active restraining order in place between you and your partner mediation may not be your solution. It is important to detail your past history of litigation between the two of you so that your mediator is aware of it to help you move forward effectively.
Gather your tax returns for the last five years together and provide these documents to your mediator at the earliest possible time.
Make a list all debt that you have acquired during the marriage including credit cards, loans, personal debts, etc.
Make another list of any assets that you have acquired during your marriage, for example real property with values and locations.
Write down the employment history and earning/salary history for each party.
Write down the following information concerning your children and provide them to your mediator:
a. names and dates of birth of the children and their ages;
b. If your child attends post-highschool training school or college provide the names and locations of colleges, tuition and method of payment of same.
c. If your child is not yet enrolled in college, write down any plans for college your child may have.
d. List any bank accounts or funds set aside for payment of college tuition that were set up during the marriage.
e. Write down any special needs your child may have.